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Van, the mother of the delinquent boy, relayed the story to the psychological experts at the Vietnamese Family Support Detective Office. She said that this was not for the first time Thang behaved so rudely to his father, but this was the most serious case.
After the fit of anger, Thang went upstairs with the pale face. Both Thang’s mother and father got panic, because they feared Thang might do something foolish, or commit suicide.
Why is Thang so rude to parents? Thang, 16, loves people around him and always speaks to them in a polite manner. Meanwhile, Thang’s parents, as Van admitted, have patriarchal behaviours. They always give orders and always grumble.
At the office, the mother asked the detectives here to follow her son to find out where he goes, and whom he meets. Van hopes that the answers to the questions will help uncover why Thang is so rude and uncooperative.
Detective Minh Chien, played a vagabond teenager, lingering at the tea shops near the church, a favorite place for young people to gather.
Chien found out that in fact, Thang did not hate his father very much, but he still tried to stay in the background. The detective said that Thang still goes to school every day and to extra classes. At a tea shop, Thang said to his friends that every afternoon he tried to stay alone in a room to “frighten” his parents.
Van, after listening to the tapes recording the words of her son, she was shocked at the language her son used. Chien, the detective, said that the words seem to be unacceptable for adults, but these are common words of young people.
After one month of using the detective service, Van felt secure with her son and believed he would not be friends with delinquent children. However, Van still felt sad because she still could not talk to him.
Van was advised by the detective to try to talk with her son with the language of teenagers. And the conversation could bring more than she expected. Thang was so surprised and burst out laughing when hearing the funny words from his mother.
Hung from Hoang Nhan Detective Office relayed to VietNamNet’s reporters a story which took place seven years ago. A man named Phu, a demobilized soldier, a hot-tempered person, with two sons.
The two boys fought each other so regularly that Phu always punished them with the blows. However, the punishment could not improve the situation.
The youngest son, an 11th grader, together with the children in the same village stole things from neighboring families and joined all fights in the village. When Phu gave him a scolding, the son insulted the father immediately.
One time, the son told the father: “Let’s fight”. Phu said that if he had accepted the fighting, his son would have beaten him violently, or he would have thrown his father into the well. However, Phu did not answer the boy, but quietly entered the kitchen.
Detective Hung, after the investigation, tried to persuade Phu that his son will change his characteristics when he grows up and advised Phu not to confront his son. As both Phu and his son tried to keep calm, the things then went smoothly and the son did not insult his parents any more. The son forgave everything when he was a second year university student.
Detective services have been mushrooming recently, partially because the service fee has been decreasing, from tens million dong to 5-10 million dong a month. The service has been used by many parents, who want to know about their children’s life and activities, so that they can prevent bad things from happening to their children.
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