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In the last five years, the central province of Quang Ngai has had nearly 100 cases of domestic violence. In particular, there were many cases that the local authorities did not know about or they failed to stop after holding several mediation meetings.
"Losing face"
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| Mrs. Phan Thi Trang (left) in Chanh Lo ward, Quang Ngai city was beaten by her husband for 14 years but she still defended that man. |
Not long ago, the public was stirred up when Mrs. Tran Thi Thuy, 32, from Binh Dong village of Tra Binh commune, Tra Bong district, Quang Ngai province, was seriously beaten by her husband but she tried to protect him.
Thuy had been abused by her husband for many years but she kept silently. One day, the cruel husband beat Thuy seriously to such a degree that the Tra Bong District Hospital could not handle it, so they had to transfer the woman to the hospital at higher level, in the state of coma, with one broken arm, severe damage to the face and numerous wounds on the body. After the violence, Thuy still insisted to protect her husband from the law.
Mrs. Tran Thi Dau, in Xuan Dinh village, Hanh Thinh commune, Nghia Hanh District, Quang Ngai was also in a tragic circumstance. They had three children but her husband did not do anything but was eager in drinking and gambling.
Whenever he took alcohol, "joy" of this man was harassing his wife. Many times, their neighbors were awakened at mid-night by the sound of shouting, cursing, beating from Dau’s house.
"Sometimes I thought about suicide or denouncing to the government. But then I thought that if I do so, the neighbors will laugh at us and my parents will worry about us. If my husband is sent to jail, who will feed our children..." Dau said.
The most recent case is Mrs. Phan Thi Trang, Chanh Lo ward, Quang Ngai city. Trang was beaten by her husbands for 14 years. Until she could not stand the violence anymore, the woman reported to the local authorities. However, when the authorities summoned the cruel man for investigation, Trang begged pardon for her husband because she did not want the local community know about her case.
Similarly, a teacher in Son Bao commune, Son Ha district, Quang Ngai was seriously beaten by her husband and had to go to the hospital but when reporters asked her about the incident, she said: "Please do not write about us! I don’t want to lose my face!"
Giving him an inch and he will take a yard
Ms. Vo Thi Thanh Ha, from the Department of Culture, Sports and Tourism of Quang Ngai, said the provinces does not have specific statistics on domestic violence. "For years, the propaganda about domestic violence prevention is inefficient because the authorities are not really interested in this task," Ha said.
According to Ha, domestic violence usually occurs in poor families or for the couples who did not get along with each other. In most cases, the women were disadvantaged, but they did not want to kick up but silently endured. As a result, the husbands followed up.
Ms. Tran Thi Phuoc, Chairman of the Women's Union of Trieu Phong District, Quang Tri Province, said the association has coordinated with the commune authorities to hold many talks about family and gender equality. "At these talks, all husbands agreed and committed to not beat their wife but when they drink, brutal domestic violence happens. As victims of domestic violence often do not make denunciations, we do not dare to deeply intervene in it," Phuoc said.
Meanwhile, Mr. Bui Dinh Nhi, Deputy Chief Judge of the People's Court of Tam Ky City, Quang Nam province, said the most difficult thing in the investigation and handling of domestic violence cases is the non-cooperation of insiders.
In the case of divorce due to domestic violence, only when the victim is actually injured by more than 11% or the victim and the local organizations make denouncement, the court can handle or transfer the case to the police. "Currently, most cases of domestic violence only stopped at deterrence, education," he said.
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