VietNamNet Bridge – Stuffing as much knowledge as possible in children’s heads, hoping the children will become prodigies is the thing that many Vietnamese parents are trying to do, because they always want their children to be better than children of other families.

 

Children forced to become mature more rapidly

 
Developing children into the persons with great learning is the dream of all Vietnamese parents nowadays. Especially, many parents feel their disadvantages in their lives due to the superficial knowledge and they do not want their children to bear the same problem. Therefore, they try to force children to learn as much as possible, hoping that the children with grown into successful businessmen in the society.

 

That explains why the children aged 3 or 4 nowadays have the busy working schedules as adult people. They not only have to go to school, but they also have to go to English classes everyday. They need to be good not only at sciences, but at sports and arts.

 

NM Tai, an information technology engineer, who works in District 1 in HCM City, said that he wants his children to become perfect persons. They will not only be good at learning, but they also need to be good at music, dance, have deep knowledge in arts, and especially, have good knowledge in different aspects of the society.

 

Tai said that his little daughter is now in second grade at an international school, where she has been going to since she was three years old.

 

“The tuition here is quite high if compared with our income, but we still decide to send her to the school, because we want her to enjoy a modern education, so as to come a perfect person,” Tai said.

 

He went on to say, that when they have the second child, he will also send the child to the same international school. The noteworthy thing is that besides going to the school, the pet daughter of Tai is also going to piano and martial arts classes. And besides English class, the little girl of Tai is also learning Chinese, because foreign language skills prove to be very necessary for her future. In order to learn Chinese, the girl has a private tutor, who teaches the girl three hours a week.

 

The grandmother of My, the daughter of Tai, complains that she cannot arrange time to play with the grandniece. “She has to spend time learning everything, from the mother tongue to foreign languages, from literature to martial arts,” she said.

 

“If I want to visit her, I have to inform about my plan to her parents one or two weeks in advance, so that they can arrange time,” she added.

 

However, Tai still believes that his daughter needs to learn more, and he feels regret that the daughter still cannot go to an informatics class.

 

If accessing education forums, one can see that parents nowadays spend much time looking for the good teachers, who they hope can help train their children into perfect persons. A lot of parents cut down expenses on themselves, while increasing the budgets for their children’s learning. As a result, children nowadays do not have time to relax, because they have spend all their time on spending, while the school bags of grammar school students are becoming heavier and heavier.

 

Give the childhood to children

 

As parents put too high hopes on their children, this has accidentally put a hard pressure on them. Hoai Duc, a 5th grader of an international school in HCM City, always feels tired when he goes to school. Duc said that every day, after the school hours, he has to do home exercises, then go to informatics and French classes. As Duc is always required to have high marks from tests and examinations, he always feels frightened, while his eyes are always red rimmed because of the lack of sleep.

 

Psychology experts have called on parents to ease the burden on their children, and “give the childhood to children”. However, they well understand that it is really not an easy work to do, once parents still put too many expectations on children, and they all want to see their children become better than others.

 

Source: Tien phong