VietNamNet Bridge - After several times of having sex without being pregnant, Cam was sure that she was infertile. Until her stomach grew up, she still thought that she suffered from flatulence. She took some digestive medicines but the stomach kept developing. Seeing doctors, she knew that she was pregnant in the fourth month.

"We are her classmates and share a room with her. Now we have to contribute money to care for her. Her husband has abandoned Cam," said a Cam’s roommate. Cam is a fourth-year student of the Saigon University.

Cam’s ex-boyfriend is her high-school classmate. He is now an official in their hometown while Cam went to Saigon for further study. They had sex for several times but Cam was not pregnant. Cam thought that she was sterile. Until her stomach developed, Cam still thought that she suffered from flatulence. Seeing doctors, she just knew that she was pregnant for four months.

Despite being taunted by the two families, the wedding was held very quickly. After the wedding, Cam returned to HCM City to continue studies while her husband stayed at home. However, the man refused to perform marriage registration because he suspected that the unborn baby is not his child. The family of Cam’s husband has also neglected her.

"We blamed her for being foolish, but seeing her crying, she also hugged her cry together. We have contributed money to buy milk and food for her. Every time seeing Cam laughed alone when she saw the ultrasound picture of her unborn baby, we tried to encourage her to live for her child," said a Cam’s roommate.

Falling in love with a student in the same university for about five months, Thi, a third-year student of the University for Social Sciences and Humanity decided to live with her lover in the reproach of her friends. After half a year, due to negligence in taking oral contraceptives, Thi was pregnant. The couple returned home for marriage registration. Blaming the girl for smearing the family tradition, Thi’s parents stop funding her studies. Thi’s husband had to stop studying to work to support his wife and child.

Thi said that two weeks before she gave birth, her husband had to sell their two laptops. To continue her studies, Thi had to send her child to her husband’s parents in the countryside. However the couple had conflict so they decided to separate. Thi pursued studies while her husband returned home to work and raise the child.

At the end of the exam, Thi returned home to visit her child but the husband’s family prevented her from seeing the baby. "My husband's family blamed me to be a spoilt wife and did not deserve to see my baby. Now I can just see my baby through the photos taken with the phone", Thi said.

Not long ago, Mrs. Mai, an innkeeper in Dong Hoa commune, Di An district, Binh Duong province, suddenly received an offer to adopt for two babies of around one-month old from a pair of students of the Ho Chi Minh City University of Agriculture and Forestry who hired her room.

Mrs. Mai said, they lived together for two years but their families did not know. Until the girl was pregnant, the boy called home to ask for his parent’s permission to marry the girl, reasoning that she was about to go abroad for studies. But his parents did not agree.

“After the girl gave birth to a twin, the boy asked several acquaintances to receive his children. Everyone thought that he joked. Until I did not see the babies, asking them, they said they left the babies at the Thu Duc Hospital. They considered their babies as two sweet potatoes. It’s only pity for the babies," Mai said.

Gynecological doctor Phan Hong Anh, Deputy Chair of the HCM City Family Planning Association, the students who have to become fathers and mothers for various reasons will come under pressure as illegal marriage, not having income, experience, being abandoned by boyfriends, etc. Since then, the students cannot handle themselves and their children will not be raised kindly.

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